Grey’s Anatomy came back this week! I didn’t realize how much I missed it. They jumped right in with Derrick and Meredith all giggly about the wedding. When did Derrick shave? So I guess operating on Izzie cured him, just like I said it would. But now that I find out I was right, it seems a little forced. Oh and him and Mark made up, so all is well. Except Izzie’s still dying and Hunt thinks he ruined Christina, which he may be right about.
The importance of family during death:
This week on Grey’s Anatomy Izzie is still on her death bed and the most adorable little girl died. This brings me to my next topic- the importance of family and loved ones. The little girl’s father was so frantic trying to find a way to get her to Mexico for some miracle cure, he almost wasn’t there when she died. The doctors were telling him she wouldn’t make it to Mexico, but he wouldn’t listen. Not that I can blame him. I would never be able to sit and watch my daughter die. He felt like trying to get her to Mexico was better than doing nothing at all. How could he just do nothing if there was any chance at all she would benefit from Mexico? It was a real tear-jerker this week. He comes back to her and describes Mexico with white sand, blue skies, and clear ocean, as she takes her last breath and passes away in his arms.
Watching someone die is a horrendous experience on so many levels. I can only imagine how watching your child die would rip your heart out a million times.
Izzie was busy all episode planning Meredith’s wedding, regardless of what Meredith wanted. It was obvious she was blocking out the truth of what was really happening by obsessing over the wedding. If you really thought about it, it was quite sad. Here she is planning her best friend’s wedding when she never got to have hers, and may die before she ever can. She also has a horrible habit throughout the episode of pretending to be sick, pass out, or die, just to get people to do what she wants, but when she is really sick, she hides it from everyone.
She said in the end she was trying to be who she was before she became sick, and she just couldn’t. It’s true. When you get that sick, you have to take on a different role than the one you had before. You can’t always physically do all the things you used to and your priorities change. It is very difficult to adjust to this, not including trying to accept the possibility of your death. This is why there are special support groups for those battling cancer, as well as ones for those who have beaten it, because getting back to your old life has its difficulties, too.
Death is something that we put out of our minds, we purposely try not to think about it. There’s a reason card companies don’t put vases on their cards to hold the flowers- they look similar to urns. Death is painful, but perhaps if we spent a little more time dealing with it before it became a part of our lives, we would be better able to handle it. It is an inevitable part of life for every single person and yet we are still shocked when it happens to us and those we love.
I’m not suggesting we walk around contemplating the meaning of life or spend all of our time focused on death. That’s obviously no way to live, but there is a difference between living your life to the fullest, enjoying the time you have and ignoring death until it punches you in the face and catches you completely off guard.
One problem, however, is that we don’t know how to prepare ourselves for death. There is no one way to do it. No full-proof plan to handling grief. Everyone is different, but if psychologists put time into researching this topic, preparation, death, and grief, perhaps someday we would have some answers as to how to better deal with it in life.
With reflection,
Pearl
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